24 Hard Truths About Dating After 30: Reddit Thread

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    Font - Posted by u/MrNiceDudeFun 4 days ago What is the hardest part of dating after 30?
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    Font - dhabo1030 3 days ago (ک) Realizing that the number of single parents is larger than you'd expect 4 11.4k Reply
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    Font - coffeeplot 3 days ago Also single parents that don't want to date another single parent. 4 5.5k Reply
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    Font - mooshmooshs. 3 days ago. edited 3 days ago This! I've started asking single parents why they wanted to match with me when my profile says no kids very clearly. Most either say they hoped I'd change my mind or they don't want to deal with other people's kids. Yet, I'm supposed to deal with their kids. Clarification 1.6k Reply Share
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    Smile - starglitter 3 days ago Ugh, when they insist their kids are different
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    Font - Durakus 3 days ago Based on how people behaved in their 20's? It's exactly how I expected.
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    Font - PeppermintLNNS. 3 days ago I feel like if you live in a big city this is way more rare. Post-30 is still relatively young and only a small handful of my friends have kids. None are single parents.
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    Font - civex 4 days ago 'Dating after 30 is like catching a city bus after midnight. There aren't as many, but they're faster.' ↑ 15.5k Reply Share
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    Font - jennwiththesea 3 days ago And I now understand why my sister just married a dude after dating for a whopping seven months. He didn't love bomb her or vice versa, no drama, no sweeping, just a really quick relationship. ↑ 1.1k Reply Share
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    Font - smr312 3 days ago I'm running out of friends to watch get married one by one, but the divorces are just starting from the first ones who took the vow. Saying things like, "In our 20s, we clicked and were inseperable, but now he/she's a different person" ↑ 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - JJJAAABBB123 . 3 days ago Geez. You sometimes pay for what their ex did to them. 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - iceman312 3 days ago I'm in the middle of that right now, and nothing I do can even make a dent in the walls put up by her in response to what her exes did. It's painful knowing that you have this amazing person in your life, but you're a few relationships too late. ↑ 539 Reply Share
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    Font - Clintman 4 days ago You have your preferences narrowed down a LOT more than you did in your 20s, thus finding a compatible partner is more difficult. Especially if you dislike kids. 4 14.3k Reply Share
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    Font - Zelotic 3 days ago I'm 29 and dated this gorgeous 32 year old woman for a little while. I could pretty much hear her biological clock ticking. She wanted to get pregnant pretty much that year and I don't like kids at all
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    Font - PrinceEnternalStench 3 days ago I've learned I prefer my own company.
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    Font - aerialista 3 days ago Happy to see this written here because most often when I've stopped seeing someone in my 30s it's just because...I'd rather be alone. I have a strong circle of friends that I love dearly, and I highly value my alone time. Society makes me feel like I'm broken because I'm not desperate for live-in life partner the way most others are.
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    Font - Toiletpaperplane 3 days ago For me it was finding someone who didn't have kids, and didn't want them. At that point in my life, I was (and still am) 100% sure I don't want kids. Finding a long term partner who wants the same was pretty tough. 3.2k Reply Share
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    Font - Zetterburger40 . 3 days ago Many people want 'high value' partners while having no value. Reply Share 4 2.5k
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    Font - AHOY macgiv 3 days ago Wait until they're over 45. Most are divorced and have been alone for a while. It's a reset of dating and they're open to try something new. That person who was out of your league is now squarely in your court. Go for it! 1.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Delta4o 3 days ago edited 3 days ago Everyone has their own life filled with work, sports, friends, hobbies, and household chores. They are available for a short 30- minute chat after 7 p.m., but not on Tuesdays or Fridays. During this weekend, they'll be out of town, and next weekend, an old high school friend will stay over. The weekend after that, they go on vacation. They wake up 2 hours before you do and go to bed 3 hours before you do.
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    Font - But other than that, they are looking for a long-term, serious relationship /s What sucks about loneliness is that you can't fix it on your own.
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    Font - Duds215 3 days ago Damn that hits hard. All the weekday and weekend obstacles is so true. The worst part is I'm the one who goes to bed and wakes up super early, which has definitely ruined possible relationships for me in the past.
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    Font - Panserbjornsrevenge 3 days ago . I got out of a LTR last year at 33 and I've actually really enjoyed dating in my 30s. I've had good dates. People are way more forthright with their goals and desires and frankly the sex is way better. Maybe I'm more comfortable with myself than I was in my 20s, and lord knows I'm way pickier, but I'm also not looking to have kids or get married so I feel way less pressure to 'settle down.'
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    Font - stephers85 3 days ago ● I don't imagine there are a lot of people in this same situation, but I didn't really start dating until I was in my 30s and the hardest part for me was the fact that all of the guys I've dated have already had long term relationships and are now mostly just looking for flings. I felt like I missed out on the good part and was left with scraps.

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